The repair without control 场景学习单

An apology draft asks for forgiveness but says little about the harm, future behavior, or the other person’s boundaries.

一份道歉草稿请求原谅，却很少说明伤害、未来行为或对方边界。

RESPONSIBLE PERSON

If they understand how sorry I am, perhaps we can both move on immediately.

如果他们理解我有多后悔，也许我们都能立刻翻篇。

FACILITATOR

Repair is measured by reduced harm and changed behavior, not by how quickly guilt feels lighter.

修复要看伤害是否减少、行为是否改变，而不是内疚多快变轻。

FACILITATOR

Name the specific impact, stop the harmful behavior, offer practical restitution, set safeguards, and let the affected person choose contact and pace.

说明具体影响、停止有害行为、提供实际补救、设置保护措施，并让受影响者选择接触方式和节奏。

RESPONSIBLE PERSON

I will follow the plan whether or not I receive a reply, forgiveness, or reassurance.

无论是否收到回复、原谅或安慰，我都会执行这份计划。

The apology becomes a long-term commitment that does not demand emotional work from the harmed person.

道歉变成长期承诺，不再要求受伤害者承担情绪劳动。