The difficult conversation 场景学习单

A leader describes a conflict as disrespect while leaving out the threat that ended the meeting.

一名领导者把冲突描述为不尊重，却没有提到那场会议以威胁收尾。

LEADER

They knew exactly how to provoke me, so the reaction did not come from nowhere.

他们很清楚怎样激怒我，所以我的反应并非毫无缘由。

COUNSELOR

A question can invite reflection without excusing the behavior.

问题可以邀请反思，却不必为行为开脱。

COUNSELOR

Describe the words used, the visible impact, what you felt, what you needed, the choice you made, and what repair would require now.

描述使用了哪些话、可见影响、你的感受、你的需要、你做出的选择，以及现在修复需要什么。

LEADER

I felt challenged and chose intimidation; I will name that choice directly before asking whether a future conversation is possible.

我感到受到挑战，并选择了威吓；在询问未来是否还能对话之前，我会直接承认这个选择。

The account becomes less flattering and more useful because context no longer replaces responsibility.

这份叙述不再那么悦耳，却更加有用，因为背景不再取代责任。