The repair conversation 场景学习单

A small disagreement about dishes has expanded into a list of everything each roommate dislikes about the other.

一场关于餐具的小分歧已经扩大成双方不喜欢对方的一长串事情。

ROOMMATE A

You turn every ordinary evening into a test that no one can pass.

你把每个普通夜晚都变成一场没人能通过的考试。

ROOMMATE B

Describe the pattern you need changed, not the person you wish were different.

描述需要改变的行为模式，而不是希望对方变成另一种人。

ROOMMATE B

Name what happened, its impact, the need underneath, one specific request, what you can change, and when we will check the result.

说清发生了什么、造成的影响、背后的需要、一项具体请求、你能改变什么，以及何时检查结果。

ROOMMATE A

When plans change after dinner, I lose sleep; please text by seven, and I will stop leaving complaints on the table.

晚饭后计划改变时我会睡不好；请在七点前发消息，而我会停止把抱怨留言放在桌上。

The argument becomes a repair plan once neither person has to defend an entire personality.

当双方都不必为完整人格辩护时，争吵变成了一份修复计划。